Thursday, December 26, 2013

Lover not a Fighter

I'm sure you've heard of the phrase (or have heard it come out of someone's mouth before): "I'm a lover, not a fighter." Well, I used to be just that - or at least I thought I was. I have come to realize that I don't think I've ever really been much of lover. I've always been a fighter.

It took me a while to come to terms with this frame of mind. I have always classified myself as a lover aka someone.who.lets.life.pass.them.by, but then I realized that for most of my life, everything I have, I have always fought to earn it. Even in my darkest periods of life, I was fighting. I may have thought I was just letting life slip through and pass me by, but it was still a struggle. I was STILL struggling to make it. I'm not a lover and never will be. Life isn't fair. You have to dig deep and actively go after what you want. So, fight!

Now, I don't mean to go out and get into fights. Come on, use common sense. Don't sit back and let the things that you want just slip out of your fingers. Even if I can't have what I want right away, I don't give up on it. Oh believe me, if I want something and I know I can get it - I WILL get it.

I have conversations with many people about how they can't seem to do this or that, for whatever excuses they come up with. Well, screw the excuses. I decided earlier this year to take charge and change the things in my life. I started with losing the excess baby weight, then I completed my last semester for my Bachelor's degree a couple of weeks ago and now I'm tackling these blogs and my professional profiles/resumes to land some contracts. I was able to get there before. I can do it again, except this time it's a different story all around.

Develop your mind and train yourself to be strong. Keep up your motivation. It's hard, but anything worth having will NOT come easy. Only you control whether your dreams become a reality. So, what are you going to do? Are you going to sit back and let life pass you by?

I am not going down without a "fight" and you better believe I'm coming fully prepared. As my fortune cookie said, "Chance favors the prepared mind." I had Chinese tonight from this place around the corner. It was absolute perfect timing because I had already began writing this post. I have been focused on preparing for the best years to come. ;-)

I tried to get my point across about being the person who has always fought and will continure to fight for what they want in life. Hope it worked and I don't sound too much like a fruitcake!! :-)

Thanks for reading!

~ Crystal ~

Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Writing problems?

You would figure that you could just pick up a pen and paper or log on to your computer and the words would just flow. Everything would be perfect. You would become this excellent writer who wrote these awesome stories. Heh, yeah right!

Reality settles in and takes over. You realize that it's a lot harder than you thought it was to get into your own groove. Even if you have a million thoughts or ideas running through your head, it can be even more difficult to get them down on paper. Maybe you have a ton of ideas, but you aren't sure how to flesh out those ideas.

Grammar, grammar, grammar!! Don't be overly OCD about the grammar and spelling of your piece. I am guilty of this. I make mistakes and feel the need to fix them - immediately! However, I am trying to be more forgiving and just keep writing. I also try to not judge my blogs as harshly now. These blogs are my place to express myself, offer ideas, etc, without worrying so much about formatting or my grammar.

Another thing that prevents some from writing is the FEAR that what they write will be pure crap. Honestly, a lot of it will be pure crap. Write it anyway. You'll never get any better or accomplish anything if you don't TRY. So, get with it and write until your heart is content.

Take the time to write down each idea or storyline, then tackle them one at a time. Brainstorm to come up with more details to help flesh out each one. I have made this mistake many times. Even right now, I have six blog posts waiting to be finished. It's hard to stay focused when you have many pending items that are only partially finished.

Focusing is a big problem too. It is difficult to disconnect with the over-abundance of social websites, cell phones constantly ringing and many other distractions at our fingertips. It is important to cut off your "lifeline" in order to focus sometimes.

Sometimes you get writers block, but if that happens, set it aside and go do something else. Get some fresh air, meditate, go a few rounds with a punching bag and just clear your mind. When the words start to flow though, I let them flow freely.

Time of day matters also. I write best either late at night or really early in the morning. Unfortunately for me, my day is usually dictated by my children and sometimes I'm far too exhausted to do anything at night. I do love those hours though. When I have the chance to write, I try to take advantage of it. I mainly work on my stories.

When it comes to my stories, I try to get into character and imagine the story as though I am watching it on a television. Yes, yes I do have an extremely vivid imagination. This works for me. It may not work for you, but all my life I have always relied on my imagination to keep me occupied when I had nothing else to do. For every person I meet, I always create a storyline unique to them. Yes, yes that sounds crazy and you could deem me a crazy person, if I weren't a writer. However, who doesn't love a dash of "crazy" that shakes up life a bit? ;-)

Hope this helps you in some way in your writing endeavors! Until next time!

~ Crystal ~

Saturday, December 7, 2013

The Excitement is in the Air!

I haven't even received all of my final grades yet and graduation is next week. Yet, 3 AM is creeping up on me and I'm still typing away at my keyboard. I don't know where this energy came from. Suddenly, even though I will sleep after this post, it seems as though I could go on for hours like this without stopping. I am loving every minute of this. I feel rejuvenated and awake for the first time in a very long time.

I have some goals I have set. I waited, chomping at the bit, as the semester slowly crept by. It felt like it would never end. Finally though, I am free from school. Well, I am free for the moment. I do intend on returning for my Master's degree. I am thinking about going for my MBA. It seems like a logical decision.

However, in the interim, I have some very concrete goals designed specifically for my writing. They are goals for my blogs, fiction writing and a bunch of new projects I will be taking on. I am very excited and will share them with everyone tomorrow, once I have had a chance to type them up on here, that is.

It feels so wonderful to take steps in the right direction towards your goals, diligently work towards them and to finally accomplish them, one at a time. :-)

Until then!

~ Crystal ~

Learning to Live in the Present

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