Thursday, June 23, 2016

Let go of the negative for a positive impact on your life

Thought of the Day:

"Let go of the negative for a positive impact on your life." Penelope Winthrop

How do you make room for all the awesomeness that is you when all you can focus on are the negatives in your life? Yes, I have been in your shoes! I have sat exactly where you sit! I wasn't good enough for this or maybe I wasn't good enough for that. Why didn't he love me enough? Why wasn't I ever enough for him?

I constantly beat myself up over everything. Why did it always seem like the world was moving against me in so many ways that I simply couldn't keep my head up over the water? I was drowning, completely drowning—and I felt like I had absolutely nobody to turn to or lean on for support. In fact, there have been several points in my life that I wished I would just die—right there. Bam! Car crash or freak lightning accident... just something to end my life so that I wouldn't have to face up to the fact that my pitiful and disgusting life was never going to be like those I envied or admired. It's a sad, sad life to live when you see things from that point of view. It's normal to feel bad about yourself at some point in life. It's part of the growing process.

Almost two years ago, I injured my shoulder rock-climbing and bouldering, which I managed to worsen through going inverted with some yoga poses—go figure. This resulted in an injury to my supraspinatus tendon in my left shoulder. It's only a tiny tear, so I opted to try and rehabilitate it without surgery. It took a little more than a year to do so, which was amazing. I started lifting weights again about six months ago and things were looking up. I felt great because I had regained almost all range of motion and wasn't feeling pain.

Then, on one particular day a couple of months ago, an incident happened that reinjured the same shoulder. Because, of course, what else did I expect? (This was my attitude at the time.) I felt shocked with disbelief for about a week or two. I thought maybe if I ignored it long enough that it would go away. Obviously, that didn't happen. Then I was sad and cried frequently for about another week. The past couple of weeks, I've been angry because I worked incredibly hard on my shoulder for a long time. It wasn't like I snapped my fingers and it was fixed. All that work—just for it to be shot in a single moment.

As if that weren't bad enough, I ran into a doorway with my hip. I hit it so hard that my body vibrated with shockwaves. Needless to say, I waited about a week for the pain to subside. Well, I thought it was gone and picked up running again, but surprise, surprise, I managed to irritate my bursa on my outer hip and I'm currently waiting for that to heal.

Basically, I've finally arrived at acceptance. I have to let my body heal, so I'll be getting back to rehabilitating my body starting today. I was sad, but I've learned the past couple of years that the sooner I focus on fixing myself, the sooner I can get back to working out the way I want to work out.

Sure it seems like a simple thing that isn't worth dwelling on. You get hurt. You heal. If you haven't been an athlete practically your entire life, then you won't understand the trapped feelings or the discontentment with not being able to work your feelings out through sweating or the calm that washes over you when you do yoga. Being physically active is much like breathing to me. I absolutely need it in my life. It is essential for my survival because it helps me attain peace of mind, not to mention that it's good for your body.

Anyway, my point is that I could have continued to be angry and only think about all the things I can't do right now. However, I've found that I only feel worse when I hold on to the very things that are upsetting me. Now, you might be thinking, "Penelope, you make it seem so easy, but it's not easy at all and you really don't understand what I'm going through." You're absolutely right, I can't possibly know exactly what you're going through. For starters, I might not even know you at all! What I do know is that once you begin to let go of the negative things you're holding onto, you make room for all the positive things to enter your life.

Consider these tips:

1. It's a choice. You have to actively let go of whatever is holding you back. Be prepared to run into your own resistance. If you feel it creeping in your head, acknowledge that it's there, and then find some way to let it float away—almost like a balloon or a leaf floating off in a strong breeze.

2. You can't change the past. Stop playing the "What if?" game. Everyone makes bad decisions, but you don't have to punish yourself for the rest of your life. If a former love left you for someone else, stop imagining that he/she is coming back because chances are they're never coming back.

3. Yes, it's scary. Anytime you step out of your comfort zone, it can be frightening. The future is uncertain and that makes many people uncomfortable, which is also why many remain exactly where they are—no matter how bad the situation. The past is easy when the future is unknown.

4. Don't deny your feelings. When you begin to let go, you can't deny your feelings exist. Often, we lie to ourselves to make us feel better about our true feelings. Once you can be truthful with how you feel, then you can begin to move beyond those feelings. Eventually, even though you probably won't forget them, you will no longer feel overwhelmed by them.

5. Find an outlet. Meditation and yoga are excellent methods for focusing on the present moment. It requires focus. Exercise, such as running, swimming, and biking, is also good for letting off some steam. Or perhaps martial arts or kickboxing is more your thing? Physical activity increases your endorphins. Endorphins make you happy.

6. You don't have to forgive to let go. There is a misconception when it comes to letting go versus forgiving. There is a huge difference between letting go and forgiving the person who has wronged you. For example, I thought for a long time that I had forgiven my biological mother for being a shitty and selfish parent, but I'm not quite so certain I have forgiven her. I cut her completely out of my life and let it all go. I don't want her around at all. I don't need her drama and lies. She'll never change and I'm OK with leaving her to live her life—without me and my children in it. And yes, I'm completely at peace with that decision. She rarely crosses my mind, to be honest. It was a healthy move and I won't apologize for it.

7. Talk about it and face it head on. Find someone you trust that will be there to let you vent. You have to get it off of your chest. Otherwise, it will eventually explode. Again, once you've started to let go, you won't want to talk about it as often. Also, by staring it in the face, you can figure out how to tackle it instead of avoiding it.

8. You have to fight for it. More people are resistant to change than not. In most cases, individuals find that change is extremely difficult because every ounce of your soul moves against you in the beginning. Put your gloves on, and get ready to fight. In fact, there are days that I still struggle when I'm having a bad day, but the difference now is that when I experience the resistance, I see it immediately and it makes it easier to keep pushing forward.

9. Make time for you. If you have to schedule it, then do it. Don't avoid taking care of the most important person in your life. Psst... That's you!

10. Learn to love yourself. Think about it, when you love someone else, you don't want to cause them any pain, right? Well, it's the same principle. Someone who loves you will never emotionally or physically abuse you. Don't abuse yourself and don't allow others to do it either!

11. Think positive thoughts. Yeeessss... these do work! They work even when you don't think they're working. It's a process. At first, you're going to think it's the stupidest thing you could ever do. Keep doing it, though. You'll find that it changes your mind for the better eventually. Positive thoughts don't necessarily turn you into a bubbly, happy person, but they open your eyes to the possibilities around you. Don't expect it to happen right away. Patience, my child, patience.

12. Surround yourself with good people. If you have toxic people in your life, family included, cut them out—like I did with my biological mother. It took years for me to do it, but it feels so good without her. Find those good people and hold onto them. You want them in your corner.

13. Never compare yourself. You can't possibly compare yourself to others because you can never be them—no matter how hard you try. You can only be you. How can you be the best version of yourself if you're busy comparing your achievements to another's? You can't be them so stop doing it. Accept who you are—flaws in all. This goes hand-in-hand with learning to love yourself.

14. Examine your expectations. If you expect that you're going to be happy when you do this or do that, you won't. When you accept who you are, then you won't feel like a complete failure when you don't achieve something.

If you want to find your future, then you have to stop living in the past. When you finally let go, you can focus on building something more amazing than you could have ever imagined. I can't promise that it's going to be easy—because it won't. It's going to probably be fucking hard, but it will be worth it. Just don't give up before you get there. On days when you feel like quitting, take a deep breath, and remind yourself that you're a fucking warrior taking on life one step at a time. If you have already hit bottom and have gone through hell, then I ask you—what do you have to lose?

Thanks for reading!

If you want to connect, I frequently post motivational memes, among other pictures, on Instagram.

A photo posted by Crystal (@penelopewinthrop) on

Wednesday, June 22, 2016

You need a valuable break from the chaos of life.

Thought of the Day:

"It's OK to take a break." Penelope Winthrop

Let's get down to it—if you're feeling overwhelmed by work, your social life, family, etc—then I'm here to tell you that it's OK to take a break. In fact, you probably need one to mellow you out and ground your nerves. Life can be so hectic and emotionally charged, especially when bad things occur in our lives. And, when something bad happens, you definitely need time for yourself because you're human and those emotions you're feeling aren't going to go away. That includes taking much-needed breaks from social media and outings. The social gatherings and social media accounts aren't going anywhere. They'll still be there when you come back from your break. 

For example, I stopped my social media posts because I really needed some time for me, my boys, and a couple of writing projects that have been sucking away at my soul. I really needed to recharge my batteries. It was obviously temporary because here I am again. Not only that, but I find that social media is draining and sometimes disappointing. Am I the only person that finds social media to exhausting at times?? I have my reasons for this, but I'll save that for my writer's blog because it's one of my pet peeves when it comes to social media marketing—using an automated interactive system to post comments, like posts, and follow people—HUGE pet peeve. 

Anyway, maybe you've been let down by friends or family—you know, not all of them, it's more like the ones you think you can count on that you really can't count on for anything at all or that one person you've loved for the longest time and they never seem to appreciate you in the way you deserve. In general, life can be disappointing and sucker-punch you when you're not looking. (Not to say that I'm truly disappointed right now because I have some extremely exciting things going on at the moment, which is part of why I stopped posting. I needed to take a little time out to reorganize—and that's essential too!) 

When someone rips your heart into a million pieces, it doesn't just hurt. Sometimes you sit there unable to feel anything before an overwhelming feeling of sadness washes over you. It fucking sucks. When you don't accomplish a goal, it's not just disappointing—it can make you feel somewhat inadequate or lazy. I could list things for days, but I won't bore you with that! I try to keep things into perspective. Bad things happen and things don't always go my way, but I still wake up thankful that I am here to keep pushing forward and face another day. 

When you realize that you can't control everything and that it's OK to be sad or disappointed, then life becomes a tad easier. Also, teaching yourself to be aware of your emotions and allowing them to pass will improve your life tremendously, especially if you're an emotional person like me. Points in your life are temporary because things are changing and moving constantly. Whatever you're upset about today, chances are you won't even give it a second thought a year or two from now. Never stop living or trying. If you suck at life today, go to bed early and set that alarm because tomorrow's a new day, sunshine! 

Sometimes people don't realize how valuable a break from the chaos of life really can be. What are some methods you use to refresh from your hectic schedule? Sound off in the comments below! 

Thanks for reading! Have an amazing day! 

If you enjoyed this, remember—sharing is caring!

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Thought of the Day: Work hard in silence

Thought of the Day:

"Work hard in silence, let your success be your noise." Frank Ocean
You know, I'm a writer who writes about a number of things on the internet—including my daily goals at times. However, you don't know every personal detail about me or how I spend my days. If you knew me years ago, you would not have seen my current life coming because I didn't spend it doing what I do now. I wasn't going far then, but I'm definitely going places now. Not only that, I quite enjoy what I'm doing.

My first mistake was sharing the details about how I wanted to better myself. The issue I've run into with this is when people find out you're trying to better yourself, some are going to throw their full support behind you. However, often many will criticize you and doubt your capability. It can be disheartening, to be honest. Do not buy into what they're selling. Once you figure out what you want from life, go get it—and don't tell anyone associated with your personal life because they tend to be your worst critics.

Another issue with telling everyone the details of your life, especially when you're trying to make something of yourself is that when you fail—and you're going to fail at something—some people throw negative vibes all over the place. I've failed many times throughout the years. The one thing that separates me from the people who give up is that I knock off the dirt and keep moving forward.

Don't tell people about your failures—ever. It gives people ammunition to sling at you for their own petty reasons. If you have already let everyone in on the details of your goals and failures, then ignore the negativity because you don't need that in your life. Finally, stop telling them anything at all.

Seek out like-minded individuals working toward similar goals. Surround yourself with these people because they're going to be the ones to motivate you when you're down, especially people who are already more successful than you. Trust me, you want those people in your life—not the broke person who keeps asking to borrow money, but never wants to get off their rear and work for it! And you certainly don't want someone in your life who keeps telling you that you're a loser or your goals are unattainable—because that simply isn't true.

A few more tips for the road:

  • Trust and believe in yourself. 
  • Talk yourself up in the mirror every day if needs be.
  • Remember, positivity alone will not produce results or progress. You have to work for it. 
  • Wake up every morning with your goals clear in your mind. 
  • Write your goals down.
  • Don't allow someone's fear of failing impact your confidence.
  • Connect with those who support your dreams. 
  • Seek out a mentor or two.
  • Failing is part of the process. Learn from it and try again.
  • If you're overwhelmed, take a break. A day off will leave you refreshed and ready to go again.

Believe in your dreams. If everything falls apart on a single day, it's OK. Keep in mind that we all fail at something every single day. Brush yourself off and try again tomorrow.

Have a wonderful day! Thanks for reading!

If you found this helpful, feel free to share it with your friends and family!

Thursday, May 5, 2016

Thought of the Day: The only disability in life is a bad attitude.

Thought of the Day:

"The only disability in life is a bad attitude." Scott Hamilton

A photo posted by Crystal (@penelopewinthrop) on

There are people who have gone through incredibly horrible circumstances in life, but at the end of the day—they are still smiling and their heart is full. It puts me to shame to think about some of the times I've felt irritated about certain things. For instance, one being that I decided to stay at home, and homeschool my children. We transitioned to regular school this past year, but prior to that, I felt annoyed sometimes. It felt like I was being held back from achieving my goals, which isn't entirely true. I simply had a bad attitude about it at times, not just because of that, but I felt unappreciated—even though it was really all in my head. I know my boys adore and love me.

Everyone thought I was "superwoman" to stay at home and teach them when all I felt was annoyed by it. I think, if I had just changed my attitude, then I would have felt better about myself and teaching. I probably would have gotten more accomplished as well. When I look back on it, I'm glad that I did, and since I can't change the past, I focus on my attitude now.

Parenting is especially frustrating at times. We're entering the "tween" phase with one of my boys and it's starting to become challenging, but we have always had a clear communication channel. Yesterday, we had an incident in the morning. I'm glad I had the day to take a break and readjust my attitude because that morning, I really wanted to scream. We worked through it once school was over and we were settled at home again. As parents, your attitude influences and shapes your child's behavior in many ways. If you think about it, your attitude essentially shapes the outcome of many things in your life—relationships, career, happiness, etc.

A negative attitude and rude behavior will cost you a lot of things in life. Shoot for the moon and aspire to be better, but at the same time, be content with what you already have. Don't look down on the things you currently have because if you have a condescending attitude now, it isn't going to improve once you are finally successful. Once you reach your milestone, you will probably be satisfied for a while, but then you will begin to long for more. It's a harsh and never-ending cycle.

Money can't buy you a positive attitude either. You could win the lottery today—and sure, you would be extremely elated, but that feeling only lasts for so long. Plus, most people who hit the lottery don't know how to manage money and end up in worse shape than before they won the lottery.

Another thing to consider is that a bad attitude can make or break your success. For example, I knew someone who owned a company that had great potential, however, he treated his employees horribly if something wasn't going according to plan. Instead of approaching an issue calmly, he talked down to others simply because he felt that he could. Eventually, his company went under and he still owes a lot of people money. You can't expect to do well if you treat people like garbage.

Have you ever been stuck in a rut? What did you do to get out of it? To shake off the negativity, I go off to clear my mind. I take a walk or meditate/do yoga. I love walking along the beach or on a hiking trail. Some quick tips:

  • Be grateful for what you have
  • You are loved
  • Let go of imperfections and accept yourself for who you are
  • Live in the here and now
  • Actively choose to be positive
  • Cut the negative people from your life
  • Clear your mind 
  • An idle mind can be destructive - Find a purpose/goal
  • You are in control
  • Figure out the problem
  • Speak positively—yes, it works

Everyone has a bad day every now and then, but you are completely in control of your attitude. A bad attitude can absolutely be changed. You are in control. Do you have any tips that you would like to add? Leave it in the comments below! If you found this helpful, please share it with your friends or family! Thanks for reading!!

Monday, May 2, 2016

Thought of the Day: Decide to be Amazing

Thought of the Day:

"Decide to be amazing, and then work hard to reach your goals" Penelope Winthrop

A photo posted by Crystal (@penelopewinthrop) on

They say, "mind over matter," right? While that's true, if you change your way of thinking—you also have to change your actions. You can be amazing by making the right decisions and then by acting on them. You want to be successful? Well, then you're going to have to work for it. Success isn't going to come overnight.

Nothing worth having is ever going to be easy to achieve. Be ready to work longer hours than others because behind every successful person is hours of hard work and struggles. Prepare to be in it for the long haul. If you happen to achieve your goals faster than you planned, then great, but if you don't then you won't be disappointed.

Do you struggle with making changes in your life? How do you go from working the minimum to putting in extra hours to go after your dreams? Start small. Implement a small change—and do it every single day. Don't forget the weekends! The more gradual the change, the easier it will be to implement it—especially if you're a stubborn person like me.

For instance, I wanted to start waking up at 4:30 a.m. every single morning. The problem is that I love sleeping. I didn't want to wake up that early, even though I knew I needed to make this change to my life. And, despite knowing that this change was necessary, I would set my alarm and every.single.morning, I would hit the snooze button. I mean, does anyone really want to climb out from under their comfy covers to begin work for the day?? After hitting the snooze, I would change the alarm to 6 a.m. when I had to wake up to get my boys ready for school. Hey, I may have had issues getting up for myself initially, but I always manage to leap out of bed for them. I put them ahead of everything—including sleeping in.

Needless to day, it was an incredibly frustrating cycle. The worst part is that I was the only person in control. I had all the power to get my butt out of bed then, but I chose not to get up. Therefore, I decided to change my approach. I set my alarm for 5:45 a.m. and over a period of about three weeks, I managed to move my wake-up call to 4:30 a.m. It took a while for my body to accept that I was going to wake up super early, but when I finally got through an entire week of my new routine—boy, it felt amazing.

Now, I'm up at 4:20 a.m. every morning. I even wake up early on the weekends, and I'm happy about it! I have my coffee, I work on some writing or pictures. I complete a few things that I never manage to accomplish at other times of the day simply because life is busy. Every day, I try to take as many small steps as I can toward the future I desire. I want it so badly that I can taste it. I know that it's probably going to take longer than I'd like to achieve my goals, but that's OK—I'm in it not only win it but to inspire others to do the same.

Make the decision to be amazing, and then act on it. Take one teeny, tiny step at a time toward your goals in life, and don't expect to see immediate changes. Celebrate your accomplishments as they come. Success won't come to you as fast as you probably want it, but in a year from now when you look back, you will be able to see the difference.

Thanks for reading! If you liked this, feel free to share this with your friends and family!

Thursday, April 28, 2016

Thought of the Day: The Secret is to Never Give Up

Thought of the Day:

"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is to try just one more time." Thomas Edison 
A photo posted by Crystal (@penelopewinthrop) on
Mr. Thomas Alva Edison is one of the best examples of someone who failed repeatedly but kept trying. And, you know, eventually, he WAS successful! He kept trying because he believed in himself. He knew he would succeed. His attitude about failing can be summed up in this quote, 
"I've not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work," Thomas Edison
Life's funny like that. When you fail, you're not really failing unless you give up completely. Learn from the mistakes that were made and go back to the drawing board to figure out a different plan of action. Find a better way that is going to help you succeed. You must understand why you failed if you ever want to be successful in reaching your goals. If the dreamers and inventors of the past never stopped to analyze why they failed and had simply given up—we would not have cars, electricity, the internet, etc. 

Making mistakes is a part of life. It's completely normal. Keep your confidence level up and believe you will make it to the top of the mountain. Believing is more than half the battle. And, it doesn't matter if other people believe in you. If you don't believe in yourself, then you're going nowhere fast. Change your attitude and perspective to unlock all the possibilities. 

If you find that you can't focus on the work—get away from the distractions. Remove yourself from the things that might be distracting you—television, people, animals, or whatever else that might be the culprit. Also, make sure to get your rest and feed your body/brain. A well-rested and nourished mind will always outperform a brain that is short on sleep or doesn't have the fuel necessary to keep churning.

Finally, you don't have to be a genius to achieve your dreams. You must be willing to put in the hard work to get the job done. This is one thing that seems to catch people off guard. They think achieving something is going to be easy, then the next thing they know—they're completely overwhelmed and headed for the door. 

Making something of your life requires hard work!! However, if you put in the time and effort, you will see the fruits of your labor begin to develop. Maybe it won't happen tomorrow or next week, but it will happen if you keep putting in the work. Keep trying and never give up. 

If you found this helpful, feel free to share it with your friends and family! Thanks for reading!

Wednesday, April 27, 2016

Thought of the Day: Don't Dwell on Mistakes

Thought of the Day:

"Don't dwell on mistakes from the past." Penelope Winthrop
A photo posted by Crystal (@penelopewinthrop) on

You can regret your mistakes and regret hurting the people in your life, but you're not going to gain a single thing by dwelling on them. Instead, learn from them and actively work to avoid making them again. Everyone makes them, but one key difference between those who move past them and those who don't is that they don't sit around wondering what they could have done to change it. They let it go.

Focus on the here and now. If you're focused on the disappointments from the past, then you're going to miss a chance to turn the page and find something new. If you botched an opportunity, look for more. There is always something else out there. 

If you failed in the past, then look at it this way: You've discovered one way NOT to do something. Don't be afraid to try again, but this time—do it differently. Face your fears. If you're unsure about how to move forward, reach out to someone who has been in your shoes. Pick up a book or do some research online. There are many excellent resources, but don't remain stagnant by doing absolutely nothing.

Get motivated about what you can do today. What you put in today is going to determine your future. Always give 100 percent!! Have an amazing day, everyone! 

Tuesday, April 26, 2016

Thought of the Day: You Become What You Envision

Thought of the Day:

"No matter where you turn in life, you're always going to encounter a problem. It's how you react that determines whether you spring back or not." Penelope Winthrop

A photo posted by Crystal (@penelopewinthrop) on

Every single person around the globe has problems. Some people face situations you couldn't even begin to fathom. Some are in these scenarios every single day of their lives. 

My life certainly is far from perfect, but I made a conscious decision not to zoom in on them because if I did, then I would probably have a very negative attitude and outlook on life. And, honestly, I don't want to live like that. I don't want to be unhappy because my life isn't perfect. 

I choose to focus on the things that matter and make me happy. I choose to appreciate the good things I have in my life. I keep a positive attitude. YES, I wake up every day feeling thankful and blessed that I'm still here to influence my children and make a difference in their lives. Keep moving forward every single day—even if it's just a little bit at a time. Learn and grow as an individual as you go through life. You become what you envision.

Monday, April 25, 2016

Thought of the Day: You Deserve to Live in Peace

Thought of the Day:
"Brute force, no matter how strongly applied, can never subdue the basic human desire for freedom." Dalai Lama

A photo posted by Crystal (@penelopewinthrop) on
As humans, we naturally crave freedom and peace. Those who find themselves in situations that are oppressing, tumultuous or exceedingly difficult often become accustomed and anything outside of that is uncomfortable. For others, the normalcy is simply a way of living. That is until they wake up and realize they deserve better.

Break free of toxic relationships

Even if someone wants to be free or at a better place in their life, they may have no idea where to start, leaving them feeling utterly lost and alone. Deep down, people desire to be treated fairly, with kindness, and to be loved. Nobody really wants to be lied to, cheated on or pushed around. Unfortunately, in the majority of instances, not only do people in bad situations feel at a loss on where to start, but they lack the confidence to implement any plan of action they might formulate.

When someone constantly breaks you down and makes you feel worthless, it sucks your strength and any semblance of hope you may have once had. Not only are you left disappointed that this person—who is supposed to love and cherish you—begins treating you poorly, doesn't support your dreams, and pushes you down, but you begin to believe that your dreams are worthless or that you're not worthy of love.

Let me point out that this does not have to be a partner—this could be a friend or family member. Part of the process of finding peace is to let go of these toxic people who make you feel worthless. Sure, maybe you don't know how to do that because it's your mother or a brother. However, when you do, you will feel like a weight has been lifted from your shoulders because they're no longer around to poison your mind.

If you're trying to break free from a relationship, then it's best to include a few trusted individuals to help you implement a specific course of action—and do not stray from your plan. Do not look back. You will never be able to change them. And, they will never love you the way you want them to. If you "miss" that person, and feel the urge to call or see them, find a healthy alternative. It takes time to break old habits, but it does get easier.

Accept life and live in the present

Part of the process of finding peace is accepting that we are going to get hurt and bad things will happen periodically. People are going to disappoint you. You're not going to be able to get all of the answers to everything. Things change and nothing ever stays the same. That's life. The best thing you can do is to be here and now. There is no point in fretting over something in the past or about something that hasn't even happened.

Wealth does not equal peace

Something else, you can't measure your happiness by all the things you own. There are many, many people who have all the money in the world, but they still aren't happy. They spend their time getting drunk and snorting cocaine or spending it on materialistic things because they've surrounded themselves by people doing the exact same thing. They think that by increasing their status people will see them as successful and will admire/like them better. Yes, we absolutely need to make money to survive, but money will never give you love, peace, and true happiness.

Bring peace into your life

Meditate, connect with nature by getting outdoors or do yoga as a means to relax and truly connect with your inner self. Don't overwork yourself, even though it's easy to do in this fast-paced life we live. Learn to say "no" more often. Let go of things that complicate or clutter your life. Slow down and breathe.

I wrote this because my Instagram post the other day started a ripple effect in my mind as I thought about this much more than what I posted on there and I decided to share more here. This is a topic I hold close to my heart because I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional family. My parents were divorced. I lived with my biological mother and ex-stepfather. Long story short, they fought all the time and it was a rough life growing up. I grew up a very sad and lost person. Then I found myself in a similar situation with my ex-husband who always made everything about him, but thankfully that only lasted a few years.

I always wanted to be better. I thought that if I became successful that it would make me happy because successful people are supposed to be happy. Right? Well, it took me a long time to realize that after all of my successes that part of the problem was that I could never find peace in my heart because I always felt broken in some way—in a way that even by being successful, I would never truly be happy.

Thankfully, I found my peace and that has paved the way for some amazing transformations and opportunities. I wish you all the best in finding yours. Remember there's always someone there to talk to or help you if you extend a hand and speak up.

Feel free to share this with your friends, family and anyone you think might benefit from it. Thank you for reading!!

Friday, April 22, 2016

Thought of the Day

Quote of the Day:

It doesn't matter where you start in life. You can achieve anything. You may not believe this because you're feeling a little lost in your current situation, but there is always a way. For example, if you don't know where to start, go to the library and ask for the books and resources that can help you get started. 

Go to a local employment office and ask for advice. There are ways to get to where you want to be in life. These people are there to help individuals get on the road to success because if they can help you, then they are also helping themselves. They have nothing to lose by trying to help you find work or provide you with the information you need to obtain the required training. 

One other thing I would like to point out—never be ashamed to ask the questions you need in order to better yourself--ever! As this quote points out—you are in control of where you end up.

Happy Friday, everyone!!

You Are What You Attract

Have you ever heard the phrase that you are what you attract? Well, it's true. Think about it. Has something ever happened to you, ne...