Often, when someone tells us to be "positive," we scoff at the suggestion because it's difficult to fake our feelings. Plus, when someone is too happy, then you start to wonder if they're smoking the good stuff or if they're simply delusional.
Because if you haven't noticed yet—life sucks at times. And, there is nothing you can do about that. However, there are some things you can do to help you handle life proactively and in a more positive manner.
Check it out:
Be alive, here and now. Don't let the past hold you back. Realize there is nothing you can do to change the past. The only thing you have any semblance of control over is right now. If you're working through fierce emotional pain, then you can't pretend to be happy. Seeking the positive does not mean you should ignore your feelings, but instead, recognize and accept them for what they are—emotional reactions to events in your life—and you continue living your life.
If you fill your life with positive experiences, then eventually painful emotions fade away. Time really does heal, but you have to make an active decision to find peace. Peace isn't going to drop in and ring the doorbell. It doesn't happen like that.
Seek new adventures. You don't even have to go very far to find something. For instance, in my region, there are lots of boardwalks, parks, beaches, and botanical gardens. (I adore—alive not dead—flowers.) Or, you can do the complete opposite and jump on a plane to travel to a place you've never been before.
Be mindful of what you put in your body. Sure, most people enjoy having a bit of chocolate or pizza every now and then. However, if you choose to indulge in fatty, fried foods on a regular basis—it's going to make you feel lethargic and you're probably going to gain weight. When you eat healthy foods, you feel great. If you don't believe me, then try it out for yourself.
Live an active lifestyle. When you workout on a regular basis, you feel better. So, you used to have a workout routine, but for some reason or another—you don't anymore. So, what? You can always pick it up again. If you're looking to start working out again, I have some tips for you here.
Don't let negative people poison your mind—ignore it and them. If you only see them online—delete them as fast as you can. You don't need that negativity in your life. It's one thing to be realistic, and another to put others down all the time or say something rude just because you feel like saying it. If you're one of these negative people—let it go and grow up. If you're not one of those people, then cut them out of your life. I've been there and done that. It's just going to irritate you more if you confront them or stew about the things coming out of their mouth. Accept that you can't change them and move on.