Wednesday, June 14, 2017

What's keeping you from your goals?

"It isn't the experience of today that drives men mad. It is the remorse for something that happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may disclose."

As a child, what did you want to become when you grew up? Firefighter, president, astronaut, and princess are a few of the usual suspects. Everyone has a dream, either something they would like to do or be when they grow up.

When you finally grew up and those dreams never materialized—it might have left you wondering where you went wrong—but did you really? Did you truly screw up your life or are you simply evolving from who you were and into the person you are becoming? 

We grow, mature and change—all the time. The person you used to be had other desires and aspirations. Perhaps being a doctor or lawyer is not something you want anymore because you discovered a passion for teaching. There is nothing wrong with changing your mind. It shows that you have figured out what you really want. Some people move through life without ever figuring out who they are and what they really want. They're not truly satisfied with life—they're simply here, living without a purpose. It's a depressing and unfulfilling way to live your life, don't you agree? 

Keep Moving Forward

You know, when I was a kid, I wanted to be a surgeon, actress, model, pediatric oncologist, astronaut and the list goes on. I've changed my mind a lot and there's a chance that I'll change it again but I've never stopped trying to find my ideal fit. I keep moving forward.

That's exactly what successful people do. They keep moving forward despite the challenges they face. They always find a way to make it work. It takes a lot of creative thinking to figure things out when you're up against a wall. In addition, your determination and dedication must be strong. I'm a rather determined person. Once I finally make a decision, I won't stop until I accomplish my goal. The issue I run into is that I often change my mind or alter the details slightly. At any rate, it might take longer than I planned, but I will always cross the finish line.

Another reason my goals get pushed back is my children. They take priority in my life because they are the next generation. They have to be prepared because life is very hard so I'm making sure they understand I am their rock and safe space when they need it. As someone who has suffered from depression in the past, this was something I struggled with because I didn't understand my relationship dynamic as a mother for a very long time because I never had this until the damage was already done. I'm a much better parent than what I tried to be years ago and far better than my biological mother ever has been in her entire life.

A Word About Schedules

Schedules are a great way for keeping you organized and on time—but only if you stick to them. If you want something in life, you have to put the time and hard work in to achieve it. It might mean working until midnight and waking up at 6 am to get it done, but isn't your dream worth it? I don't homeschool anymore but my schedule still revolves around theirs. All the taekwondo, extracurricular activities, piano, homework, pickups/dropoffs, and whatever else is handled by me so my work schedule has to fit around everything.

Distractions like family or friends slow the momentum more than we like to admit. Listen, your friends and family do not live your life. Don't allow others to disrupt your daily schedule unless you're going to fully accept the consequences that follow. Stick with putting you and your family first. Nobody's going to do your work for you unless you pay them. You create a schedule to keep your day organized, so follow it. Period.

Final Thoughts

If you think about doing something, then maybe you should. If you truly desire to do it, then do it. What's stopping you? Grab a pad of paper and a pen to make a list of pros/cons. Figure out what it will take for you to get started, and then go for it.
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